To be honest, these last few weeks have been rough. I was emotionally, physically, and mentally drained from all of the hate and negativity going around in our world. Then it hit me like a storm that my black son would be growing up in this. I brought my son into a world of hate and it tore me apart.
I didn’t know what to say, post, or how to feel. I felt like a failure. I really had to take a moment and reset. It’s not my fault that black people are feared and hated nor is it my son’s fault. It is heartbreaking to think that I can raise a perfectly good human and he could be hurt solely based on what he looks like. That is mind-blowing to me!
We aren’t safe in our own home, on our own property, at the park, the store, or in a car. How do you live and move forward knowing that at any moment you could be a target? How do I teach my son to live in a world like that? “Well, son it doesn’t matter how great of a person you are, how smart you are, or how beautiful your smile is.”
I honestly don’t know all of the answers but I will continue to teach him to love everybody and be proud of who he is. I don’t want him to live in fear so I can’t live in fear. I am praying and will be fighting for change. My son’s life depends on it.
Yes! I had to channel my anger and frustration to focusing on the future of my son. Happy you are in a better place.
We have to work to make it a better place for our kids.
You are so right. As a parent eSpecially a black parents its hard to raise yOur child or children in such uncertain times. All you can do is pray and hold on to every moment with yOur children Like its yiur last. I get ANXIETY just thinking about my children as they grow and all the things that come with growing up, like drivinG a car or going out with friends. You want your kids to EXPERIENCE life but not at the cost of there own.
Exactly. That’s how I feel too! I want him to have fun and live but I also want to protect him and make sure he’s safe.
With my son being a teenager i constantly worry, What we see going on in the world has Been going on for decades and That is why i talk to my 13 yEar old son all the time, He knows what to do if he is ever apprOached by cops, he also knows his rIghtS. Which i feel everyone shOuld know their basic rights as an citizen. With me Having a law background. i make him read Books about the constitution and rights in the book of laws. I also try not to be that overbearing parent but its just to risky for me to be completely Comfortable with him Hanging out with friends or going places.
I love that you are educating him on his rights. It’s hard to let our kids be kids because they can’t even play without it being an issue sometimes.
You are a wonderful mom to share your experiences with other mother’s. You will never know how many lives you touch. Keep up the good work.
Thank you so much! I really appreciate that. 💜